Isn’t it funny, how as you get older, your interpretation of things starts to change? Or maybe, it’s because you didn’t have a clear understanding of things before. Yep! Live a little...Learn a little.
When I was younger, I thought that when I was of legal age, I’d have the freedom to do whatever I wanted... silly me. That was a fairytale.
The next thought I had was, once I moved out of my parent’s house, I’d know what freedom was. Reality check... that didn’t happen.
Enthused by my next illusion, I was sure that once I was married, I would have a say in things that I never had a say in before, and that... would be freedom. Hahahahaha! (I was such a silly girl) 😄
Then I had a baby, and when that happened... all bets were off. I fell in love with the most incredible little human, and I had brought her into this world. So...was freedom really all that important to me now?
Here’s the thing. I believed to some degree that freedom was something of societal nature. It was a right of passage of sorts. Like it was something you achieved at a certain point in your life. Something that said, Yes, you’ve arrived, or like finding the golden ticket in Willy Wonka. You’ve been granted access to the private club. I thought freedom was something that I would be given by someone or something outside of me. It wasn’t until I was much older when I realized that freedom wasn’t just one thing, and yet at its core, it amounted to one thing and one thing only.
Now, if you’re anything like me, you’ve probably spent a lot of time doing things for others and trying to keep everyone in your life happy. And...if, for some reason, they aren’t happy, you feel like it’s your fault. Then you start beating yourself up and trying to figure out what you could have done differently.
Someone else’s happiness isn’t your responsibility, so give yourself a break.
So what does trying to keep other people happy have to do with your freedom? Well, if you feel like you’re not measuring up to someone else’s needs or expectations, chances are you don’t feel very good about yourself. It’s that age-old thing that is still being talked about after decades. It’s that feeling of Never Being Enough.
If you worry about what others think of you or about living up to someone else’s expectations, you’re going to be living your life looking over your shoulder.
Freedom is about facing forward and taking aligned action. You don’t need approval from others.
Know that if you’re honoring the truth within you, there will be no negative feelings moving through you or around you.
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